Tuesday, September 22, 2009

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At times in life we face such situations whose consequences we are not aware of.Still we are bound to take some decisions no matter where they lead us.Its not that easy to decide something on which your whole future depends.These situations leave you completely befuddled.You know you can decide something take a step which you want to,but then there is a question ‘are you that matured to take such a step?’ specially when the world around you is just compelling you to take just the opposite step.You discuss this with your friends(the ones whom you listen to,the ones who have the ability to help you get out of this) but its also of no use.At the end of the day you are again more confused and your friends can only say ‘never seen a more confused person than you.’ And if you happen to take your own decision like I did you really have to face a hell lot of hurdles.I had decided to pursue commerce after completion of my 12th boards. I was expected to go for engineering just like all my friends and every other person out here.I did appear for engineering entrances (being a science student I was forced to do so) without any preparation so I just could not get through damn good colleges as expected by everyone who knew me in school.Though I knew I wont get through any good colleges.Things like this also happened to me in my entrance exams I wrote the wrong roll number got my paper rejected,trust me I did not do that intentionally,it just happened. Neways I was still forced by my family and of course relatives(trust me at times I hate this word called relatives,they really mess up a lot)to study engineering.I could get through some good colleges but I was least interested in engineering.Somehow after lots of melodramas I was able to convince my parents to let me study commerce.But then in this place I mean where I live they have this misconception that commerce is opted by those who lag behind in studies, who never study,who can never build a descent prestigious career with a good pay package.CRAP!!!If you are a good student then you are expected to study medical or engineering.As if doctors and engineers rule this world..and rest every person who is not an engineer or doctor has no brains,is pea headed,not a good student and if he is studying commerce then he is for sure a spoilt brat.And commerce is just a piece of cake any tom dick harry can score a handful of marks in it.Its a complete pigshit!!I really felt like showing them DU cut offs(DU-my childhood dream:( ) but I could not because I could not get through DU.Well I did not even apply for DU the cut off being as high as 97%:( how do you expect I could??If commerce is this bad and has no future then why is DU cut off so high??Really these people out here need to grow up. Throughout school we are judged by the marks we score,you score good marks you are good you don’t you are bad.And then finally when it is time for college you are given just two options medical or engineering.This is the trend that people out here normally follow. As if there is no other field left,no scope in any other profession,and a large scarcity of engineers n doctors. So once you have completed 12th close your eyes and place yourself in any engineering or medical college(if you are lucky then in a college of your choice else wherever your parents say).We are not even given an option to think about our future what we actually want to do,what we actually want to study.Everything is just predetermined you are either born to be a doctor else an engineer. Why can’t the child himself be given this option of deciding his own future?? Then there are a few cases I have seen who ask others “hey I will be doing engineering please suggest me some branch which does not have maths or physics” Then why in the first place you want to study such a thing? “its just mom n dad told me to do I have never thought much about it.” This is what happens in maximum cases with people out here. Yea it happens only in this city or maybe this state. I remember those conversations at family gatherings or any damn place where you have to meet your relatives. Each one of them made me feel as if I am committing some big blunder. And then I happened to meet a few nerds of my college somewhere, I remember the look they gave me when I told them I am doing bcom and simultaneously pursuing CA. Bcom??:-O ohh okay..CA??what is that some computer application course???With a look of contempt they would ask me such questions. As if I had come over from Mars and telling them some alien bedtime story.And yea when I told someone that am appearing for CPT(CA’s foundation exams)this was the response “you are worried about your compartmental exams?Dont worry you can manage it.You are not that bad” (around 4 or 5 told me this,atleast they would have bothered to ask what is CPT rather than responding in this way):-O And then I must tell you about this reaction I got from a school friend when he came to know that I am studying commerce “Gal you spoilt your career you were such a good student,how could you take such a step?”
Despite all this I was stubborn about my decision. I believe there is ample scope in every field but it is possible only by the person who seeks them. You actually need a lot of courage and determination to go against the current. I chose a complete different life by taking up commerce.

9 comments:

The West Wind said...

I know what u mean.. People there know only rat race.. I am proud of u that u chose a different path for urself.. dun heed the shit people try to drill into ur mind.. have ur own mind always .. just like u have had so far!! We are always with u :) Its better to learn from ur own mistakes that other people's advice.

pallavi said...

I can completely relate to ur problem cuz i have been through d same...u obv know it well...d same ques being askd 2 me,d same confused n gaping looks wen i tld frnds m doin CA...n d awkward moments in tryin 2 explain dem wht dis is actually...d thng is ppl fail 2 take note of d fact dat dey r d ones unaware of diff prospects othr thn d stereotypical careers..dey thnk dey knw evrythng n it is twice as easy to comment on sum1 els...but m happy we hav decided 2 tke d road less travelld n provided we put in our efforts we cn race ahead of our peers...we jus need 2 work hard :(

sukanya said...

Its easy 2 follow others..hidin ur face behind others..not smart enough to be even noticed in da crowd..
Courageous are those who stand out..who follow deir dreams,least bothered abt da quacks of filthy featherless ducks of society..who make their own mark..dey are da individualistic few..brave n rare..like you..hats off gal !! proud 2 hav frnds lyk u n pdp !! u gals rock!! :)

ardhendu said...

what can i say.

Its sad that you had to face so much hardships from your relatives and friends in the choice of your career. I personally faced no pressure whatsoever for the choice of my career, but maybe that was because i anyway opted for Engg.

Its great that you have worked against the tide and succeeded. Dont believe those who say they dont know what CA is.. I can give you numerous examples of successful CA's and each engineer/doctor knows that CA is a prestigious and respected profession.

Anyways, if you got interest in a subject, then you will definitely do good in it. So chill, dont care about what the world thinks and pursue your dreams as you wish to.
The road less traveled, though may have thorns, surely has more fruits too. :)

Anonymous said...

ur thoughts,views n ur sundry xperiences wid d present hustled bustled ppl rilli parallel wid my savoir-faires as m too into arts stream n 2 b more specific ppl point out dere fingers on me sayin "Hey u dng graduation n tht 2 in english hons?? Ohh gawd!! " bti neva felt low or icky since at d end of d day wht ever i did was xactly wht i wanted.. .... its very callous to live out n stand upon ur own willed career .. .. all d best for ur futur gurl:)

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sonu said...

heyy sweetie..good work done ;D
.. the so-called Engineers_______ - chalo i wnt comment ..
by the way good news for you .. people doing CA would be in great demand from 2011 .. "IFRS is replacing IAS "!! .. so let the demand-supply talk .. :)

Barun said...

Respect, totally ...for speaking ur heart out like this ...u just said what the rest of us cudn't hv put in words.

rusha_devil said...

so finally u did it!proud of u girl...and at times its hilarious cuz i know d ppl who said dose things..neway..just brought back a whole lot of memories...d time we spent together,all dose discussions about the ppl who failed to understand us..but at dis point am proud of ourselves..that we chose a different path and not because we wanted 2 b different but because our hearts weren't satisfied with "great Indian dream" and maybe because we were different!atleast in future we would have only ourselves to praise or blame for whatever we become..we wouldn't be the product of dreams of someone else..but our very own..i know the hardships u faced and i can surely say u faced hell lot of a tough time..a lot tougher than mine..but u did emerge victorious.good luck girl.keep up the good work and prove all those &%^$#@*&% ppl wrong who donot believe in you!